The New Year often comes with the pressure to make resolutions and grand promises of change that can feel like another mountain to climb. But for those of us recovering from narcissistic abuse, this approach can feel harsh, even overwhelming.

After all, you’ve spent enough time living under the weight of someone else’s expectations. What if, instead of resolutions, you chose intention? What if, rather than striving to fix yourself, you permitted yourself to focus on a single, guiding Word of the Year that nurtures, empowers, and inspires you as you continue your healing journey?

Let’s explore why choosing a Word of the Year and setting intentions can be a gentle, transformative alternative to resolutions and how it aligns beautifully with your recovery.

Why Resolutions Don’t Work for Recovery

Traditional resolutions tend to focus on “fixing” perceived flaws or achieving external milestones: lose weight, get organized, and stop procrastinating. While well-intentioned, they often carry a sense of judgment and self-criticism—two things you’ve likely had more than enough of in a narcissistic relationship.

Here’s the truth: recovery isn’t about becoming “better.” It’s about rediscovering who you truly are, reclaiming your power, and living in alignment with your values. Resolutions can feel like a set of rules to follow, but intentions? They’re about gently guiding yourself toward the life you want to create.

The Power of a Word of the Year

Choosing a Word of the Year gives you a single, meaningful focus for your growth and healing. It’s not about perfection or pressure; it’s about anchoring yourself in an empowering theme that resonates deeply with where you are and where you’re going.

• Why It Works: A Word of the Year isn’t rigid. It evolves with you. Whether you’re facing challenges or celebrating wins, your Word becomes a touchstone, reminding you of your inner strength and vision.

• What It Offers: Unlike a list of resolutions, your Word of the Year doesn’t demand achievement. Instead, it offers you guidance and grace—a steady companion for the year ahead.

How to Choose Your Word of the Year

1. Reflect on Your Journey:

2. Ask yourself:

2. What do I most need this year?

2. What’s been missing in my life?

2. How do I want to feel as I continue my recovery?

Common themes include peace, courage, resilience, freedom, and joy.

1. Let It Come to You:

2. Don’t overthink it. Your Word might come as a whisper in your heart, a flash of inspiration, or even as you’re journaling or meditating. Trust your intuition.

3. Examples of Words for Recovery:

3. Healing: A reminder to focus on your well-being.

3. Empower: A call to step into your strength.

3. Boundaries: A guide to protect your energy.

3. Serenity: A desire for inner peace.

3. Thrive: A vision for moving beyond survival.

Setting Intentions for the New Year

Once you’ve chosen your Word, use it to set gentle intentions that support your healing. Intentions are different from goals—they’re about aligning your actions and mindset with your chosen Word. Here’s how:

• Create a Vision: Imagine what living your Word would look like. If your Word is “peace,” what might bring you more calmness? If it’s “freedom,” what could you let go of to feel lighter?

• Set Small, Meaningful Actions: Instead of big, overwhelming changes, focus on small, sustainable steps. For example:

• If your Word is nourishing, commit to one act of self-care daily.

• If your Word is joy, schedule time each week to do something that makes you smile.

• Revisit Your Intentions Regularly: Keep your Word visible—write it on a sticky note, create a screensaver, or add it to your journal. Reflect on it often, asking, How can I honor this Word today?

Why This Approach Matters in Recovery

Recovering from narcissistic abuse is a deeply personal journey, one that requires self-compassion and patience. Choosing a Word of the Year and setting intentions meets you where you are. It reminds you that your healing is not about rushing or proving yourself but about becoming the person you were always meant to be.

This practice also helps you reclaim autonomy. After years of having your focus directed outward—on the needs, moods, and demands of the narcissist—your Word of the Year is about you. It’s your voice, your values, your vision.

Closing Thoughts: A Year of Intentional Healing

As you step into the New Year, remember that you don’t need to have it all figured out. Your recovery is not a race; it’s a journey. Choosing a Word of the Year and setting intentions gives you a foundation of self-love and clarity—a way to navigate the months ahead with purpose and grace.

So, what will your Word be? Whisper it to yourself, write it down, and let it guide you toward the life you’re creating—a life of peace, empowerment, and possibility.

Wishing you a year filled with hope and healing,
Jillian